Parent-Teacher Conferences: Key Questions Every Parent Should Ask

Parent–teacher conferences are a wonderful opportunity to hear how your child is doing at school, both academically and socially. Beyond reviewing grades, these conversations can give you important clues about your child’s learning style, attention skills, and emotional well-being. Asking the right questions can help you better understand your child’s strengths and identify potential challenges. Be sure to talk to your child after the conversation to celebrate successes and make a plan for areas of growth!

Click here for a printable version of the top questions to take with you to the conference.

Before the Conference

Be prepared by taking a few minutes to review and take note of:

• Recent report cards or progress notes

• Homework or projects your child has completed

• Any concerns or observations you’ve noticed at home

Now, let’s talk about what to ask!

Questions About Learning and Academics

• How is my child doing compared to grade-level expectations?

• What subjects seem easier or harder for them?

• Do they need extra time, reminders, or support to complete assignments?

• Do they learn better through visuals, hands-on activities, or through class discussions?

• How do they respond when work becomes challenging—do they persevere, avoid, or become upset?

• Is my child engaged during lessons?

• Are they comfortable working in groups or more reserved?

These questions can highlight whether your child may be struggling with skills like reading, writing, math, or organization—difficulties that sometimes reflect learning differences such as dyslexia, dysgraphia, or executive functioning deficits.

Questions About Attention and Focus

• Can my child stay on task independently, or do they need frequent redirection?

• Do they have trouble following multi-step directions?

• Are there times of day when their focus is stronger or weaker?

• Do they have trouble getting started on tasks? Is it specific to one subject or type of task (e.g., written assignments, math worksheets, reading)?

Patterns of distractibility, impulsivity, or inconsistent focus may suggest attention challenges such as ADHD, especially if they occur across different subjects and settings.

Questions About Social and Emotional Functioning

• Does my child advocate for themselves?

• How does my child get along with peers?

• Do they participate in class discussions or avoid speaking up?

• Have you noticed changes in their mood, motivation, or behavior at school?

  
  

Teachers often see social or behavioral patterns that parents may not notice at home. These insights can point toward emotional stress, anxiety, or difficulties with self-regulation.

Questions About Motivation

• What seems to get my child excited or curious in class?

• Are there any strategies you use that help them stay focused or engaged that we can try at home?

During the conference, write down the teacher’s responses to these questions. If you notice ongoing patterns of concern, consider reaching out to a specialist, such as a pediatric neuropsychologist, to see if an evaluation or outside supports would be beneficial for your child. Early understanding can make a meaningful difference for your child’s confidence and success!